Guys, What is scarier in your mind: Jumping off a 20-story building or approaching this woman at a club?

I’m pretty sure you all agree that it doesn’t get scarier than approaching a gorgeous woman you noticed out somewhere.  This is known as approach anxiety and is evident in 98% of all men.  As a victim of those “cure your approach anxiety” scams I can tell you that it isn’t something you can get rid of like a zit.  After years of going to clubs and bars, getting rejected more than a few times, I can tell you from my personal experience how to get on the fast track to taming it.

First off, going out with a group of guys helps.  You guys can support and encourage each other to make moves on girls-cue the peer pressure.  My friends and I have a game where one of us is “it” and buys the first round of drinks.  This guy now has to have a 5 minute conversation with at least 10 women, and he drinks on us the rest of the night.  I was “it” 6 weeks ago when we went to NYC and ended up talking to more women because of it, and getting several phone numbers.

My number one tip is to approach a girl who is at the bar, and simply say, “Are you going to buy me a drink?” with a smile on your face.  She will immediately laugh and boom, you’re in.  Don’t buy her a drink at this time though.  Wait until you’ve talked for at least 20 minutes.  If she gives you the cold shoulder then she is probably a b%^&$ who takes life too seriously-and trust me you don’t want those women in your life anyways.

No matter how hot the woman is, they all want the same thing, for a guy to make them laugh.  Take the line I gave you, use it in the bar (works in any line where you’re going to purchase something) and remember to smile.  From there, you want to keep things interesting by making statements about her and occasionally leaving the conversation right after you’ve made her laugh, only to find her again 5 minutes later.  This will keep her on her toes, and wondering where you keep running off to.

The hardest part for me about approaching hot women is the first 10 seconds. After that you will either start talking to the girl or realize she is bitchy and move on.