When it comes to getting laid (without paying for it!), no man has been successful without the use of sexual tension.  You may not have realized how important it was at the time, but it was there alright.  In this post I explain what sexual tension is, and how to achieve it with the hot girl you want to see naked.

WHAT IS SEXUAL TENSION?

Something we have felt many times.  It is a connection between two people when they are sexually attracted to each other, but have not acted on their feelings…yet.  Sexual tension keeps things between you and a woman interesting and full of mystery.  There is also a lovely anticipation factor: a butterfly-filled excitement that remains until the two of you act on your mutual sexual feelings for one another.

HOW DO I USE IT TO MY FULL ADVANTAGE?

By prolonging hooking up as long as possible-preferably until she can no longer stand it!  I know this is tough, but trust me it’s worth it.   This puts you in the driver’s seat AND keeps things interesting between you for longer.  Remember the classic ’80’s TV show, “Moonlighting?”  The minute the 2 main characters had sex no one watched it anymore and it was canceled soon after that.  Sexual tension keeps things interesting and keeps you safely locked in as the man of mystery in her eyes.  All the other guys will give in to the sexual tension right away, and she will end up hating herself for being intimate too soon.  You on the other hand, are going to wait…

HOW DO I MAKE IT HAPPEN?

You’ve decided you want to be the guy who doesn’t give it up, makes her wait, and has her chase YOU eventually.  Yes, this is what will happen if you follow my advice.  Here are the best ways to create sexual tension:

1. Eye Contact

Confidence is born when you aren’t afraid to look a woman in the eye.  This holds true especially if you are caught staring at said woman.  Hold your gaze and smile.  If she smiles back, you’re in.  When she’s talking, listen intently and stare at her lips.  Occasionally you can smile and when she asks what you are smiling at, wait a moment, then say, “Nothing,” while still smiling.

2. Set yourself up as a warm & “touchy” person

This is not nearly as daunting as it sounds.  When you meet a woman you want to create sexual tension with, make a point to lean in and hear people around you, put a hand on their arm when they say something funny and use the 2-handed handshake when you meet someone.  Once the woman you like sees that you are a warm, touchy person then she will start wondering if you really like her or if you are simply affectionate with everyone.  This is exactly where you want to be, because from that point on she will test you to see if she is in fact, special.

3. Tease Her Playfully

Look for opportunities to bust her chops in a PLAYFUL way.  The best way to achieve this classic cocky/funny with a woman and build sexual tension is to have a smile on your face when you tease her.  It could be about anything.  If she’s wearing fingerless gloves (girl I went out with the other night was) say, “Hey Kelly Kopowski called, she wants her fashion back!” If you’re playing pool with her tell her she plays like a drunk baby.  Look for any opportunity to tease her and go for it: if she trips: “Hey didn’t you ever learn to walk?” If she spills something, “This is why we can never have nice things!” – That one is particularly good because it brings in role playing-you have set up a game where you two live together.  The list goes on.  Be aware of these chances to bust on her and seize them.  Remember to smile and touch her arm, back of her neck or lower back if it feels natural too.

WHEN IT WORKS RIGHT

When you have perfected the art of sexual tension, she will eventually bring it up.  She might say something like, “Are you like this with a lot of girls?” or “”Do you touch everyone like that?” She is testing you to see if she is special or different from the other women in your life.  The best response is to act dumb: “What do you mean?  Like what?”  and let her lead the conversation.