In my entire dating life, I have never felt so out of control and helpless as a year ago: I simply could not stop thinking about my ex, no matter what I tried.  This painful lingering feeling is called “One-itis:” you are sold on the fact that this woman is your one true love, and you will never find another one like her…The typical gaming advice here is to go out and bang other hot women, distracting you from your true love.  I personally have only found this to leave me feeling worse and more empty than before.  I know you guys are thinking, “Ruben!  Man up.”  But all men will experience “one-itis” at one point in their lives.  This is how I cured mine.

1. Time

Instead of telling yourself you fucked up, or that you will never meet another woman like your true love, tell yourself this proven fact: time heals all wounds.  It is something my dad used to say.  When my dad died, I couldn’t even talk about him without getting emotional.  Three years later, I smile when talking about him and can enjoy it.  The longer you can will yourself to go without talking to, online stalking or seeking out your true love, the easier it will be to move on.

2. Lack of Contact

Erase her number, adjust your Facebook settings so that you don’t receive updates about her and don’t email her.  I once drowned a cellphone on purpose because I knew in my vodka-soaked state I would call her.  Yeah, I had it bad.  Either way, this will work to your advantage.  If you don’t contact her then eventually one of two things will happen: She will miss you, wonder why you haven’t reached out and contact you.  Alternatively, you will never hear from her again, in which case, she isn’t interested and you must move on.

3. See Other Quality Women

The emphasis here is on quality.  There are millions of women in the world who are equally attractive, funny and interesting as your true love, but you are so hung up on her that you can’t see them for who they are.  Read my project: YOU post, and dedicate your energy to YOURSELF.  Once you feel better about yourself, you will attract all the wonderful women that you have been too distracted to notice.

4. DISCLAIMER:

If your true love has feelings for you, then stop playing games and make her yours.  In my case, the feelings weren’t mutual, which is why I developed this system for curing my one-itis.  But I would never discourage you from experiencing a loving relationship with the one woman you can’t get your mind off of!  If you truly believe that she is the one, and she believes that you are the one, then what are you waiting for?  Hang up your gaming suit and congratulate yourself that you don’t have to sweat in bars over women anymore.