Guys, I’ve had a lot of men writing for advice lately-one common theme I noticed:  You’re making yourself too available and decreasing attraction.  What do I mean?

We have all heard the expression people only want what they can’t have,” right?  Well it’s the truth!  When a girl responds to your texts or calls within twenty seconds, and is consistently free when you ask her out, she becomes unattractive-at least to me-no matter how hot she is.  I start wondering if there is anything else in this girl’s life.  Now, when a woman takes hours to respond to my texts, and doesn’t return my calls?  I want her.  I want her bad!  It’s one of those tricks that you have to keep up your sleeve if you want women to chase YOU.

When you first get a woman’s number, text her right then and there.  “Hey who is that hot guy standing next to you -Ruben”  ALWAYS put your name-the chances of her saving the number increase, plus you made her laugh right off the bat.  So now she has your number.  Wait 2 days to call her, if you leave her a voicemail then start pacing her right then and there.  My pacing rule: Take the amount of time it took her to respond to you and double it.  Texts, phone calls, any of the above.  Now the ball is in your court and she is wondering why you aren’t calling her back.  Guys, this is exactly where we want them.  The more she thinks about you and stares at her phone awaiting a response from you the more attracted to you she is becoming.

It only takes a few times of really being strong and having willpower to see that these results are true.  Give it a try the next time a woman you want reaches out to you and watch your mystery build, and her attraction along with it.