"Ahh, a World Cup fan too? 2 points!"

This method is tried-and-true, and I have many members who implement this playful style into their online pickup:  The Point System.  Whether you’re trying to get a woman to qualify herself to you, or you’ve hit an awkward moment where she hasn’t responded, The Point System is a fun way to move the ball back into your court, online and even offline.

It’s simple too.  Women – especially the HOT ones – tend to believe that they have the upper hand with men who are interested in them.  Well, there might be some truth to that depending on the dude, but that’s beside the point.  Not you, right?  If you’ve ever learned anything here and from any other material you’ve read in the past, the key to getting HOT females is having her pursue YOU.

You can start implementing it early on in your phone or IM conversations, each time she mentions something to qualify herself to you.  “You cook? Noooooo. 5 points for you!  Wait, women BS way too much, I’ll have to see it to believe it — so, 2 points.”  “Whatever, I really can!”  “Ah, 1 bonus point for confidence.”

Set a bar, and keep it fluctuating. “3 points not bad… Rarely do women ever get to 15. I’ve only seen it ONCE.”  This way, you’ve created a game of sorts.  A game where she’s going to continue to qualify herself, and face it, women are competitive.  If ONE chic made it to 15, why can’t she?

If you’re in the position where she hasn’t responded to you over email or direct messages — say, about her phone number — instead of looking like the creepy, desperate dude, you have some leeway to go ahead and send her a follow-up message without losing any face.  “I allllllmost gave you 4 points for that cool photo you posted, but a -3 for leaving me hanging with an awkward silence LOL — so, 1 point. Awesome pic, thank God for that, huh! haha.”  By doing this, you’ve re-opened communcation, and your conversation can return to its normal tug-o-war — AND you got the number.

This game can go on and on.

Never give points on beauty, and if you do, do it sparingly and in a clever way.  You don’t need to inflate her ego.  The only time I can think of giving any points on beauty, is when you’re comparing her to another hot chic. “Believe it or not, guys watch the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show too.  Some of the hottest women in the world.  Adriana Lima?  Yeah, she’s a beauty……………..  You have a sliiiiiiightly prettier pout than her though, so you deserve half a point.

Other things you can give points on:  knowlege of sports, knowledge of alcohol, athletic skill, cooking, book smarts, and pretty much anything cool — even if it only means she’s exagerrating and you can tell.  If she’s even trying to exagerrate at all, give YOURSELF a few mental points – you’ve got her trying!

Give her points, then knock some off.  Keep it going back and forth.  Some things you can issue negatives on:  bad jokes, awesome things she can do which you haven’t “seen for yourself” yet, liking a rival sports team, and pretty much anything you’d probably knock your buddies for.  Keep it light and fun.  Good part is, in the future, you now have a “game” that you two can relate to.  If she throws something at you, you can playfully sling back: “Oh come on! Says the girl who lost points for liking the Celtics!”